Welcome to Resourceful Counselling
Hello and a warm welcome to you!
Thank you for visiting my page. I hope you find it useful.
My name is Marina. I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist and I absolutely love running my private practice helping people create better lives for themselves.
I believe that every single person has the ability to lead a full vibrant life where they feel like they matter and have a right to their wants, needs and feelings.
The road to that life requires curiosity, patience, perseverance and radical self-compassion.
I know that it`s not fun to feel like you are carrying the whole world on your shoulders and feeling like you are responsible for other people`s feelings.
You may be doubting yourself and are unsure of what your needs are. You may feel like you are not as important as others so you put them first (every single time).
You may feel exhausted or overwhelmed (or both), because your life revolves around others and you feel it would be selfish to put boundaries in place and say 'no'.
You may also feel like enough is enough and it`s time to change some things.
If you would like to find out how I can help you, send me a message to discuss your needs and book your free online session.
Specializing in Co-Dependency and Narcissistic abuse
About Me and Services I Offer:
Do you feel like whatever you do is not enough? Do you constantly compare yourself to others, who seem to have it all 'figured out'?
Do you find yourself thinking over and over again about situations that happened during the day, wishing you said or didn`t say something? You may even realise that you tend to 'overthink' stuff but not sure how to change that or if it`s even possible.
Do you struggle to say 'no' to people out of fear of being seen selfish? You might even be afraid to lose that relationship if you were to put your own needs first for once.
If you resonate with any of the above, I would like you to know that there is nothing wrong with you. You feel the way you feel for a reason. That reason may not be clear to you yet, but it doesn`t have to stay this way.
In my twenties, I became anxious, depressed and completely unable to navigate life and relationships in a functional way. I did whatever it took to not be alone; my fear of being abandoned, which stemmed from my childhood experiences, ruled my life completely. I wasn`t aware of it at the time. It led me to get involved in unhealthy relationship dynamics, jobs I hated, and make friends with people who didn`t appreciate me. I was just unhappy about my life in general.
I felt inadequate and embarrassed about every aspect of myself. All my energy went into hiding my real self from the world. People saw me as happy, bubbly, and outgoing. All of those things I worked hard to preserve and keep up the appearances. Needless to say, I felt unfulfilled. I felt like a fraud.
Cutting the long story short, I hit my version of rock bottom. It forced me to go on a journey of self-discovery (because there was nothing else left to do and I realised that nobody was coming to save me). I wanted to know who I really was and how I could feel better about myself so that I could function in a healthy way and not get overwhelmed by anxiety and feelings of shame.
Step by step, I learned why I felt how I felt and gained some tools to change my worldview and my behaviour. I gave myself permission to be imperfect - to be human.
I had to learn to say good-bye to people who were not happy with the boundaries I put in place. It was scary and painful, but I knew that if I kept compromising my own values, it would be the end of me. I learned to grieve and not berate myself for being in pain.
I am still learning, because this journey is forever-evolving. However, I now know who I am. I know that I am enough just as I am.
I would love to help you to start your own journey. There is no place for toxic positivity in my practice, but we will celebrate you, your efforts and your wins. You will learn self-compassion and self-validation amongst other things.