What About Me?
“What about me?!” you scream inside.
It`s not fun to feel like you are carrying the whole world on your shoulders. You feel responsible for everyone else`s wellbeing; you go overboard to help others whenever you can with whatever you can. And yet, you feel guilty about asking for what YOU need. You even feel bad or selfish for having needs at all. You might be at the point where you have trouble identifying them.
Don`t even get me started on saying ‘no’ to people. That`s like one of the biggest crimes! You end up sitting there agonising over how to refuse to go to an event or give someone a hand with something, or visiting a friend or a relative you don`t want to see (because it`s emotionally draining). You spend hours or days trying to find the right words. Needless to say, you end up saying ‘yes’, because you are afraid to lose their love and respect, to hurt their feelings. So you end up hurting your own.
So what, right? You`ve had a lot of practice getting your feelings shoved deeper and deeper inside of you. It has become so familiar it almost feels natural. Nothing new there. Except, there is. Resentment is building up. More and more each time you don`t speak up and make a right choice for you.
You expect people to read your mind without you having to express what you need or want. You feel anxious, because you feel responsible for everything to go right, as if you are the only adult in your world.
You feel depressed, because you cannot possibly make everyone happy. Your own happiness hardly ever enters the picture.
“What about me?” you scream silently. It is time somebody listens to you. It is time you listen to you.
This is just a short extract of what co-dependence might feel like. I will talk more about it in my future posts. I just want you to know that there is a way out and #youarenotalone.
Specializing in Co-Dependency, Trauma, Depression and Anxiety
About Me and Services I Offer:
I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist, as well as an award-winning author of Resourceful Mum: Take The First Step To The Life You Love.
I can help you start healing from your unresolved childhood trauma, anxiety and depression. I also specialise in helping women recover after narcissistic abuse and regain their confidence, self-esteem and the ability to believe in themselves again.
I use Integrative Approach, because it employs different therapeutic tools and theories to suit each individual. I bring together Person-Centred and Gestalt approaches with elements of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. If you are at the point in your life when you are wondering whether it is worth getting help dealing with difficulties you have encountered, then I urge you to give counselling a go. It is not always possible to deal with life's obstacles on your own.
At Resourceful Counselling you will have a safe space to explore your emotional difficulties and work through any issues that you feel are holding you back from enjoying life.
Sessions last 50 minutes from the beginning of your appointment.
At the moment I am offering Online sessions only conducted via Zoom.